All topics relating to worry and anxiety really get my attention. Having been bound and undiagnosed by an anxiety disorder for nearly two decades has made me very sensitive to the subject and somewhat of an advocate in this area.
Below is an article from Daily Stoic. It is not meant to be a cure for someone with an anxiety disorder at all – but it might help someone out there. It helped me.
Here’s why worry is pointless.
Humble people worry less than the arrogant. Why is that? Because they aren’t so conceited as to think they have any idea (or control over) what may or may not happen. The poet Rilke put it well: “Life is not even close to being as logically consistent as our worries; it has many more unexpected ideas and many more facts than we do.”
Worry is pointless not only because it rarely makes things better, but also because you’re rarely ever worried about the right thing!
Seneca’s line was that “nothing happens to the wise man contrary to his expectation.” By that the arrogant person might take it to mean that the wise man is so smart that they are aware of all the possibilities. The humble soul knows that is probably not what Seneca meant. They know it’s more plausible that the wise are aware of Murphy’s Law and the absurd randomness of the universe. That is, within the range of expectations of the wise man is the idea that just about anything can happen.
Remember that today when you get anxious. The thing you’re hoping won’t happen, or hoping will happen…well, it’s just as likely that the world has entirely different plans for you. These plans are often things we couldn’t have even comprehended, let alone anticipated or prevented.
So let go a little bit. Don’t worry. It’s unbecoming. It’s arrogant. Be humble instead.
Keep in mind that living with a mental health disorder is something very different from ‘worrying’. This article is meant to help and not belittle or brush aside anyone with any disorders.